by Larry Mendte The year was 1968. I was 11 years old, in 6th grade at St. Philomena's grade school in Lansdowne.
All of the Philadelphia sports teams were bad to mediocre, but it didn't matter. In my neighborhood, the Phillies were gods. We all collected Topps trading cards in hopes of getting Chris Short or Cookie Rojas. You took your stack of cards to school with you and flipped them in the playground during recess; farthies, topsies and leansies were the big "flip" games. When you lost, you had to forfeit the cards you flipped, which is why you never, ever used the Phillies cards. In Lansdowne, 1968, Carl Yastrzemski and Hank Aaron were expendable, Clay Dalrymple and Don Lock were untouchable.
My brother's favorite player was Richie Allen, by far the best Phillies player. I didn't know it at the time, but in 1968 my brother took some grief for liking Allen, considered an angry black man by some in the white neighborhoods. Allen did seem angry, but he had his reasons in a sport and fan base that had only slowly evolved since Jackie Robinson. Robinson had the temperament to take the racially charged jeers, Allen did not. You may argue, why should he have to and the only answer is not sufficient - it was 1968.
The favorite player in my class was Johnny Callison and so he was my favorite, mostly by default.
But that would change.
I was in Center City Philadelphia with my father. He would often take me along when he had a quick business meeting or when he was dropping off a manuscript. We were waiting for an elevator in the lobby of a high rise. The doors opened and out walked one of my Dad's advertising colleagues and some other men. My father chatted for awhile and then introduced me. The man looked at me and said, "Larry, are you a Phillies fan?" I smiled and nodded my head with a definitive yes!
The man then said, "Do you know who this is?" He pointed to a tall, athletically built man standing next to him. I didn't recognize him right away.
The man continued, "Larry, meet Tony Gonzalez." My jaw dropped. The Phillie's center fielder smiled at me, said "Hello" with a thick Latin accent and mussed my hair with the biggest hands I had ever seen.

That was it. Tony Gonzalez then shook my father's hand. The men all said goodbye. Tony smiled at me one more time and waved goodbye. I waved back, but never broke my stare or my slack jawed expression. I watched as he walked out the revolving doors and onto Market Street. My father had to pull me into the elevator and out of my state of shock.
From that brief, chance encounter on - Tony Gonzalez was my favorite player.
I was devastated, just a few months later, when the Phillies didn't protect Tony in the expansion draft. He was selected by the San Diego Padres.
I needed a new favorite team. For four or five years I turned my back on the Phillies to root for the Chicago Cubs. I already loved Ernie "Let's play two" Banks, so it was an easy transition.
1969 was a bad yeard to become a Cubs fan. Despite having the most talent in baseball with Fergie Jenkins, Billy Williams and Ron Santo, they took an historic swan dive in September and lost the pennant to to Amazing Mets.
I think it was God's way of punishing me for forsaking my rightful team.
Tony Gonzalez had a bad time of it too. Despite being the opening day cleanup hitter for the brand new San Diego Padres in 1969, Tony had a bad start, batting just .225 with 2 home runs. After 53 games, Tony was traded to the Atlanta Braves. He played their for one more season and then ended his career in California with the Angels.
Tony Gonzalez wore a Phillies Jersey for 9 of his 12 seasons in the majors. Lifetime Tony Gonzalez was .286 hitter with 103 home runs. He was a fast, slick center fielder.
He was a slightly better than average player. But that doesn't matter - he will always be my favorite simply because he took the time to be nice to me.
I have meant a lot of ball players since, but none have had the impact of my first. And all he had to do was say hello and smile.
I was thinking of that as I watched the Phillies the other night on TV. I remember taking 13 year old Andrew Accardi to a Phillies game to meet Chase Utley. Andrew has cancer and is being treated at Children's Hospital in Philadelphia.

Andrew loves baseball and I asked the Phillies if he could stop by to meet one of the players. It was Chase Utley and he couldn't have been nicer. He spent time with Andrew, gave him a jersey and asked "if it was okay" if he had his picture taken with Andrew.
It was one of those teary-eyed moments that no one who saw it will forget - especially not Andrew Accardi.
Chase Utley knows who he is and the impact he has on children. Baseball players exist to give children someone to cheer for, someone who they can aspire to be. Baseball players are unlike any other sports figures.
I wish more of them would realize that.
Next time you are at a Phillies games, scan the stands. You will see families with lots of children. Children wearing Phillies jerseys and carrying gloves as if they may be asked to join the game at any minute - or in years to come.
They are the future of baseball - future players - future fans.
And they will be fans because of the time they spent with family, because of a chance encounter with Tony Gonzalez, because of the kindness of Chase Utley.
The players need to remember the influence they have over the future of the sport. Baseball has a personality, it has suffered through strikes a steroids, but it can be saved with a few autographs, school visits and kindness.
As much as Batting Averages, Homeruns and ERA's, a players success is measured in inspiration. While many greater players are forgotten, Tony Gonzalez will live forever in my memory. Sometimes immortality only costs a smile.